October 27, 2014

HOW TO HANDLE FAMILY DYNAMICS IN WEDDING PLANNING

Photo by Sarah Peet Photography

Family dynamics can play a tricky part in the wedding planning process, and we've got a few tips to help you handle this aspect as smoothly as possible!

1. Figure out early on who will foot which bills for the wedding. If you're keeping the American tradition of having the bride's parents' pay for the bulk of the wedding, you can expect that they'll want a say in a few (or all) matters. If that bothers you, be upfront on which parts you want full control over, even if it means you may need to take on the expenses for those specific items. Don't get entangled into a web of animosity by failing to set clear expectations at the very beginning of the planning.

2. Communication is key! We've seen families tip toe around each other during the planning, for fear of offending one another with their ideas or expectations. In the end, there is always a lot of disappointment, stress, and anxiety. We encourage our clients to communicate with their families during the progress of the planning, so if issues come up, they do so prior to the wedding day. There have been countless times when parents come up to our team on the wedding day, asking (or demanding) why a particular family member is not on the family portrait list, or not assigned to the reserved seats at the ceremony. By then, it's an awkward situation for everyone involved, so please do make the effort to communicate with your families during the planning.

3. A marriage really is the blending of two families, not just two people. The celebration becomes much more meaningful when the families are equally as excited to become one. We recommend planning a few pre-wedding events for the immediate families to come together, allowing them opportunities to get to know one another better before the wedding. Believe it or not, we've had a few weddings where the parents meet for the very first time at the wedding rehearsal, and the awkward vibe tends to trickle down to everyone else.

4. Assigning specific roles or tasks can help family members feel included and valued. It also gives them a focus, which can be helpful in honing their involvement to just one or two areas of the wedding. Some special roles/tasks can include being a reader and finding an appropriate piece for the reading, or hand crafting something small, but significant, for the wedding such as a ring bearer pillow.

5. Be sensitive to family dynamics that may be awkward, or family members that may not be on great terms. Divorces, separations, and other circumstances can often result in bitterness and resentment amongst the people involved. Try to be sensitive to that by seating these people further apart, and limiting their interactions with one another on the wedding day. A negative attitude of "they'll just have to deal with it. It's my day" will only result in unnecessary drama on the wedding day! 


Last, but not least, showing love and appreciation will always go a long way. Keep perspective, and trust that your families really do want you to be happy. Sometimes, we get swept into the details of such monumental occasions and forget the reasons for celebrating in the first place. Remember that it's a joyous occasion and everyone is there to love and support you! 

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2 comments:

  1. Nice post. This article is providing so many information about wedding planning. The thoughts are very good. Thanks to sharing the great information….

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  2. Yeah you are right dear! Family dynamics can play a tricky role in the event planning for a special occasion like wedding. Understanding is the most important thing between family members. Anyways, thanks for these useful tips! These tips will help lots of people who are doing wedding planning.

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